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Talking About Relationships: Will a boyfriend seem over-possessive and controlling if he politely tells his girlfriend to not wear mini skirts when going out?

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Will a boyfriend seem over-possessive and controlling if he politely tells his girlfriend to not wear mini skirts when going out? Before I answer, I’m going to make an assumption about the person who wrote the question. I’m betting that he’s not from a Western, i.e. European/North American socially liberal culture, even though he may be living in Western Europe (the United Kingdom included), the U.S., or Canada. I say this because this is the sort of question that someone from a patriarchal, hierarchical, and socially conservative culture would feel at ease asking. Well, sweet summer child, yes, a boyfriend or even a husband  will  indeed “seem over-possessive and controlling if he politely tells his girlfriend to not wear mini skirts when going out.” You see, in a healthy, loving relationship in a modern, pluralistic, non-theocratic society, the ideal scenario does not involve having one partner “politely telling” the other what not to wear when going out, except in situ